Hi there! I’m Nicole Berrios, I’m an empath and I’m here to show other empaths how to rock their gift. My goal in hosting this site is to remind empaths that they are strong, awesome and waaay more powerful than they have been led to believe. I want empaths to remember that they are 110% capable of owning their sensitivity and learning how to not just survive, but freaking THRIVE with it.
I’m going to show you how to embrace your inner empath and be totally empowered by your awesome ability. In short, I will show you how to become a skilled empath. For real.
HERE’S THE THING…
I love being an empath. Seriously. I can’t imagine living without my ability to feel everything as deeply and intensely as I do as an empath. It’s like a kind of superpower that I can use to navigate through all sorts of things in life and I would feel lost at sea without it.
But I didn’t always feel this way about my empathy. Quite the opposite, in fact. There was a time (not that long ago, actually!) where I walked around in a fog of un-enlightenment on a daily basis. I didn’t know anything about myself, how to express or talk about my emotions or even what emotions I was feeling (I say this in hindsight. At the time I thought I knew it all!) I was completely disconnected from myself and the saddest part was that I wasn’t even aware that I was disconnected!
I didn’t even know what an empath was, let alone that I was an empath. So what changed? I’m so glad you asked…
THE CATALYST FOR CHANGE
It wasn’t until I wound up in the E.R. with severe panic attacks at 23 years old that I realized something in my life needed to change ASAP. When the doctors told me I was simply stressed and that I should go on Xanax, I decided that there had to be a better option for me than simply throwing a pill at my problems.
This is when I decided to embark on a life changing journey to discover the root of my stress and what I could do about it.
I started doing kundalini yoga, receiving acupuncture, going to therapy, journaling and the biggest catalyst of all, doing a 10 day meditation retreat, observing noble silence. It was during this 10 day silent retreat with nothing in the way to distract me that all the metaphorical walls I had spent my entire life building up (unbeknown to me!) finally began to crumble. This caused a lifetime’s worth of emotions that I had inadvertently suppressed to come to the surface for me to finally feel and deal with.
I now refer to this as my “emotional regurgitation phase” and to say this was an intense time in my life is the understatement of the decade!
Once I started to finally deal with my own personal emotional baggage, I began to realize that I could feel the emotions of people around me as well. I had no idea what was happening to me and for a minute there I thought I was losing my mind.
And that, my friends, is the very convoluted story of how I discovered I was an empath, and I’m sure my story will sound awfully familiar to a lot of you. 😉
WHAT I DISCOVERED ON MY JOURNEY
Now that I’m a little bit older and have been around the empathic block a few times, I have discovered many useful things. Here’s a small sampling:
- I have learned all about myself and how to deal with my emotions safely and effectively as soon as they occur (no more waiting 20 plus years to deal with emotional baggage. We all know where that got me).
- I have learned how to distinguish between what emotions are mine and what emotions belong to someone else.
- I have mastered the art of being empathic in a crowd. It can be done!
- I have realized that every empath has it in them to master their ability and learn to live with it like a pair of good friends, because if I can do it, anybody can do it.
It all looks great in print, but the road to getting to where I am today was anything but easy. I had no teacher or guidance. I struggled with getting a grip on all of the feels I was feeling and was an emotional wreck more often than not.
It took me years of trial and error but I finally figured out how to get a handle on this whole empath business. I stumbled. A LOT. I wanted to give up all the time. I would curse the gods that I had no guide and had to figure out how to do this on my own. But through it all, I kept my chin up and I freaking did it. And I want to tell you ALL ABOUT IT!
THE BIRTH OF THE MODERN EMPATH
I launched the Modern Empath to help other empaths in the world so that they have an easier time than I did. Because I know first hand how hard being an empath can be, and nobody should have to struggle alone.
So if you are finding yourself in an empathic pit of despair, you have probably come to the right place. 🙂
But as a disclaimer, I am not here for everyone. If you:
- Aren’t willing to roll up your sleeves and dive into some uncomfortable and oftentimes intense emotional inner work
- Aren’t willing or ready to take responsibility for your life
- Aren’t interested in learning how to truly master your empathic nature
- Aren’t into silly memes, sarcasm or the occasional expletive
then this probably isn’t the place for you. No hard feelings, we can’t all be an energetic match! If, however you are ready to take control of your life, learn how to master your empathic ability, do some hardcore personal development and finally learn to feel like awesome sauce in a fun and down-to-earth environment, then welcome!
Are you ready to start your journey toward empathic and emotional empowerment? Are you ready to take control of your life and master your ability? Then start by heading on over to the empath FAQs page and getting my free eBook. That’ll get you started off on the right foot!
Welcome, friends! I’m glad you found my internet home. 🙂
TIDBITS OF USELESS INFORMATION ABOUT NICOLE
Here’s some more info about yours truly. It’s a truly riveting read.
- I was so impressed by my experience using acupuncture to deal with my anxiety, that I spent 5 years in school and became an acupuncturist myself! I’m now a licensed acupuncturist, practicing community style acupuncture. It pretty much rocks my socks off. I’m totally barefoot right now.
- I may be empathic, but I love going to rock concerts. My most favorite show of all time was System of a Down (my favorite band) at the Hollywood Bowl. Empaths can rock out, too!
- I am mostly vegan, but will eat meat if the situation calls for it.
- I have a bad habit of accidentally melting plastic, and have very deformed spatulas to prove it.
- I have a bad case of wanderlust and have been on 4 continents and counting. 2 of my worldly backpacking trips were completely solo. Girl power!
- I have watched all 8 seasons of That ‘70s Show from start to finish at least 5 times. I lost count, actually.
- And I’m literally a tree hugger. That’s me over there, hugging an amazing Banyan tree on one of my solo trips in Cambodia.