If you’ve been doing any research on the topic of empathy, you may have stumbled upon the term “empowered empath” or “skilled empath” at some point or another. I know I sure did when I first started my own personal research on this topic. It seemed like such an illustrious thing, some gleaming, wonderful way of being that would mean never having to feel the emotions of others again. But then I found myself wondering; what exactly IS an empowered empath?
Back when I was a newly discovered empath, I was convinced that I would never learn how to get the overactive empathy under control. I would read about the need to become a skilled empath and get horribly frustrated. All of these websites and books that I found claimed this same thing, but nobody ever bothered to explain exactly WHAT a skilled empath was, or more particularly, HOW to become one.
Through my own trial and error, I have come up with my own definition of what being an empowered empath looks like, and I believe I have managed to achieve this status. Please be aware that this is my own personal definition, but it may help you on your own personal journey.
An empowered empath is an someone who has embraced their ability and has learned how to successfully live with it. Notice how I didn’t say they have learned how to turn their ability off or have “risen above it”. An empath is born an empath and that is just something that needs to be accepted.
Roadblocks to Becoming an Empowered Empath
In the beginning, when one is first coming to terms with the fact that they are an empath, there tends to be a lot of despair and frustration. Newly discovered empaths are often overwhelmed with the emotions they feel and do not know how to differentiate their own emotions from those of others. It is often a time of serious disempowerment.
When an empath becomes “skilled” or “empowered”, this is what they have risen above; they have risen above the despair and frustration. They have learned how to determine which emotions are theirs and which aren’t. They have learned successful coping tools to help them deal.
But most importantly, they have accepted their innate empathy as a part of who they are, and have learned to embrace it. They have chosen to be empowered by it, rather than feeling debilitated by it.
They have even begun to learn how to actually use it as a tool to help them navigate through relationships and life. What a concept!
However, this does not mean that an empowered empath is exempt from the emotions all around. Emotions can still be felt, but it is now possible to put them in their place. Empaths may also occasionally have a bad day where they (usually inadvertently) let down their defenses and are at the mercy of emotions, but these days will be a rare occurrence. An empowered empath is still an empath, they have just learned how to feel without taking those feelings on as their own.
The Bottom Line
It is important to remember that while becoming an empowered empath is absolutely attainable, it is not a quick fix and does take time and effort. But so long as you are willing to put in the work, becoming skilled need not be some illustrious dream, but a very real goal to work toward and eventually achieve.
And if you’re wondering where the heck you even begin on a journey like this, check out the empath FAQ page. This is a hub that links to different articles answering some of the most frequently asked empath questions.
I hope it helps! Now rock on with your bad empath self!