To an untrained empath, it may sometimes seem that the only external emotions they can feel are the bad ones. In truth, empaths can feel all emotions on the spectrum (the good ones included!), but it may seem as if the negative ones are much more prevalent. There are a few reasons as to why it’s easier for empaths to feel the negative emotions more so than the good ones, and this article will try to explain this phenomenon.
1. Like attracts like
When one first realizes they’re an empath, it is not uncommon to feel a huge sense of despair and disempowerment. Being an empath can be hard, but trying to fumble your way through it in the beginning is not a very fun experience.
When an empath is struggling with their own personal negative emotions (think fear, anger, sadness, confusion, etc), it will be much easier for them to pick up on similar external emotions. This is simply because of the ages old adage, “like attracts like.”
2. Energy follows intention and what you are focusing on
Similar to like attracts like, energy (in this case, in the form of emotions) follows intention and focus. Are you constantly focusing on negative things? If so, you will be much more likely to find negative things to focus on outside of the self as well. This is simply because your brain has been wired, or trained, to focus on those things. It will be very difficult to not be so affected by external negative emotions if you are constantly focused on internal negative emotions as well.
It is therefore very important to begin to become aware of your thought patterns and start to shift the way in which you view the world. Viewing the world in a more positive light will make you less likely to be so affected by the negative emotions out there.
3. There is no shortage of bad emotions floating around in the world today
Let’s face it, we live in a pretty crazy world right now; global warming, intense politics, war, hunger… I could go on, but I’m sure you get the point. There is no shortage of bad things happening in the world today, which means that millions and maybe even billions of people experience negative emotions around these issues. Because of this, it is all too easy for empaths to pick up on these intense and pervasive emotions.
The key to becoming an empowered empath however, is learning to not be so affected by all of this. These negative emotions are always going to be there, but it is very important to learn how to not be pulled down by them. Empaths must learn to lift themselves up to rise above the negativity that is so abundant in the world, or better yet, find the good in the world and learn to focus on that instead.
4. An empath may not be ready to experience the positive emotions
If an empath has been living their life focusing on the negative, even though they may wish to experience joy and happiness, these emotions may be too far out of their comfort zone, and they may subconsciously push them away. Sometimes an empath may just not be ready to experience the more positive emotions, which is why self work becomes so important.
5. Negative emotions may be more familiar and therefore more comfortable
It sounds counterintuitive, but sometimes people who are acclimated to feeling constant negativity will purposely avoid good-feeling emotions, simply because negativity is more familiar to them, and therefore, more comfortable (in a morbid way). Some empaths may be so familiar with feeling negative emotions, they are not quite ready to experience the positive ones, because that would mean venturing into unfamiliar territory, which can be terrifying.
The Bottom line
For whatever reasons empaths may have for feeling predominantly negative emotions, it makes it all the more important that they embark on self work in order to raise their own emotional vibration so that they are not so susceptible to the negative stuff out there. To not do so means struggling with being at the mercy of bad-feeling emotions all the time. It is very difficult to become an empowered empath when you have your own personal issues to deal with as well.
Remember, empaths are made of strong stuff, and while it is challenging, it is perfectly possible to deal with personal stuff in order to become a fully functioning empath. Go, you!